FORSAKEN, UNHAPPY AND UNLOVED

Love is overrated, yet is craved by most of us. However, if you crave it, you’ll be considered a fool in this ‘so-called practical life’. I really don’t understand why people doubt the existence of love but then again crib when they don’t find love? 

I am no ‘Mother Teresa’, but I do believe in the existence of love. 

As a part of society, we have are expected to run like clockwork! So, if by any chance, someone asks you about marriage and you tell them about things like love, soul connections, trust, understanding, and all that stuff, then you’re gone!! 

Because, my dear friend, nobody is going to believe you! They’ll attack you with their perceptions!! 

‘You’re living in a fairytale’

‘Love doesn’t exist’

‘Love is a Drama’ 

‘C’mon, Be Practical’

This is all that society says when you talk about love and marriage simultaneously. 

So, by any chance, if you talk about anything philosophical while answering the marriage question, you’ll stick out like a fly on the wedding cake!

Everyone is concerned about getting hitched at the right age, but 

nobody pays heed on after-effects of a ‘forced or a loveless marriage’ 

I still wonder, if there are a million different things they say about the non-existence of love, then why does a loveless marriage affect the children? 

Marriage, my friends, should be done only if you are 200% sure!! 

It shouldn’t be an affair to please society. 

And by any chance, if you get into this trap of ‘getting married at the right age, irrespective of finding the right lovable person’, then BEWARE! 

Don’t let the upcoming generation suffer because of your baffling decisions and wrong choices. 

Marriage is a lifetime decision, make it a worthy one! 

Marriage must be a concept of entwining people who are meant to be, it is for the people who believe in ‘forever’. 

It shouldn’t be an affair that costs you a lifetime and you shouldn’t hurry because you’re aging or the society says so, or any other problems. 

Take your time, relax and breathe. 

If you’re 200% sure, then Do it! 

Not here to scare you or anything, just want to aware you about the consequences of a loveless marriage on children. 

THEY FEEL UNLOVED, UNHAPPY & FORSAKEN!

As a matter of fact, kids are the basic foundation of all the families and it’s considerable to keep a check on your upbringing from time to time to stay alert about the sentiments of the kids. Taking care of children is not a cakewalk. Most often, in loveless marriages, the lack of love affect the kids in a very dangerous way. Such marriages affect children in the long run. A loveless marriage is like a pandora box. 

Loveless marriages are secret silent killers!!!

Just like divorce, staying in a loveless marriage can have traumatizing effects on the kids. This has been observed by various licensed marriage and family therapists. According to eff Palitz, one of the licensed family therapists, staying in a loveless marriage will harm your children more and do no good to them. Kids frequently learn from their parents and repeat all the patterns in their own lives. Most of the time, the effects on children start even before you’d know. The drop in their academic test scores and behavioral issues are the common issues that you might see in the kids who are surrounded by a loveless marriage. It’s a well figured out fact that children often take the resentment and hostility from the relationships of their parents. This brings out marital strife which forces the kids to step outside their role and furthermore results in a psychologically devastating burden on the kids.

As per the experts, unhappy parents are the ones who raise unhappy kids. 

A loveless marriage can have a ripple effect!

• Children will have the tendency to leave their homes, they will not feel comfortable in their home. 
• Your kid will grow up with self-doubt, low self-esteem, and trust issues. 
• There will be cardiac stress, emotional insecurity and hormonal imbalance problems in your teenagers. 
• They will often blame themselves for their parent’s unhappiness. 
• Deep down, they’ll build a model of unhealthy relationships in their minds that will trouble them in their own future romantic relationships. 
• Deteriorating mental health along with the psychological and behavioral problems is the common effect of a loveless marriage. 
• Harm to the parent-child relationship
• Poor academic performance 

All of the above are the basic common problems that you might face with your children in a loveless marriage. 

This is not for the people who are into arrange or love or any other type of marriage. This write-up is not for offending anyone but to aware the people about the consequences of a loveless marriage. I really don’t know how often people talk about it. These things just crossed my mind and I had to write about it and share it. 

This piece of information is for the people - 

• Who think love isn’t necessary for a wedding 
• Who think that you only need to check out the packages and properties before marriage 
• Who think marriage should be done when you’re in your early twenties and then go on with having babies in your late twenties (No offense to the natural process, just saying)

This is for the society, on the whole, who force the young adults to make decisions they don’t want to take. By doing this, you’re not only harming two people but the whole upcoming generation!! Loveless marriage can lead to dangers that might take millions of years to overcome. 

Finally, it may be concluded that ‘A world without love is not worth living and marriage without love is not worth sustaining’